Wills and Trusts Explained: Choosing the Right Planning Tool for Your Family

27 January 2026

When people first start thinking about estate planning, a common question comes up almost immediately: Do I need a will, a trust, or both?  Unfortunately, the answers people hear—from friends, online videos, or social media “experts”—are often incomplete or misleading. That can leave you feeling unsure about which direction to take.


The truth is, wills and trusts are not competing solutions. Each serves a different purpose. The real goal is not about choosing a document—rather, it is creating a plan that actually works when your loved ones are grieving, stressed, and needing guidance.


In this article, you’ll learn how wills and trusts differ, how each functions in real life, and what factors should guide your decision. Most importantly, you’ll see why the right tools must be paired with thoughtful planning to keep your family out of court, out of conflict, and away from avoidable mistakes.


What a Will Can Do and Where It Falls Short


For many families, a will is the first estate planning document they consider. A will allows you to name who receives your property and who you want to raise your children if something happens to you. Those are important decisions, but a will alone has significant limitations that often aren’t discovered until it’s too late.


A will must be validated through probate, a court-supervised process that becomes a matter of public record. Even in states where probate is considered relatively efficient, the process can still drag on for months or years, cost thousands of dollars, and open the door to family disputes.


Moreover, a will also does not prevent minor children from being placed temporarily with strangers or people you wouldn’t choose—until a judge makes decisions—unless additional planning is in place.


Another common misconception is that a will helps during your lifetime. It does not. Your will provides no authority for anyone to manage your finances or make medical decisions on your behalf if you become incapacitated due to illness or injury. Without adequate planning, your loved ones may be forced into court to seek permission to help you during an already emotionally challenging time.


And while a power of attorney can address incapacity, it stops working at your death. That transition—authority during life versus authority after death—is one of the most confusing aspects of estate planning. That’s why education always comes first, so you understand what each document does, when it applies, and how they work together.


Because of these limitations, many families turn to trusts for broader protection and privacy.


How Trusts Work in Practice


A trust is a legal arrangement that allows your assets to be managed during your lifetime and distributed according to your instructions after your death. When properly set up and funded, a trust avoids probate entirely (unlike a will)—meaning your affairs remain private and your loved ones can step in immediately when something happens.


Trusts also provide flexibility and control. You can decide how, when, and under what conditions your beneficiaries receive assets. This can protect inheritances from divorce, poor financial decisions, lawsuits or creditors. With regular reviews and professional guidance, a trust can evolve as your family, assets, and goals change.


One of the biggest misconceptions about trusts is that simply signing one is sufficient.  Many trusts fail because assets are never properly transferred into them. This is especially common with DIY services or traditional planning models that stop once documents are signed.


If assets are not titled correctly, they may still go through probate—defeating the very reason the trust was created. The real value of trust planning comes from working with a lawyer who ensures your assets are funded, coordinated, and kept current as your life evolves.


So how do you decide which approach makes sense for you? The answer starts with what you want your plan to accomplish.

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Key Considerations When Choosing Between a Will and a Trust


Estate planning isn’t about paperwork—it’s about people, priorities, and peace of mind. Here are key questions to consider when deciding which tools belong in your plan.


1. Is avoiding court important to you and your loved ones?

If privacy, efficiency, and minimizing conflict matter, a trust is often the better choice. Many families assume probate will be “simple,” but real-world experiences tell a different story. Delays, disagreements, and rising costs are common—and they often outweigh the perceived savings of a minimal plan.

2. Do you have minor children?

A will alone is insufficient to protect minor children. A comprehensive plan should include long-term and short-term guardian designations, clear instructions to prevent temporary placement by authorities, and written exclusions of anyone you would never want raising your children.


A trust also plays a critical role by managing assets for your children and ensuring caregivers have access to financial support without court involvement.


3. Do you own real estate or multiple financial accounts?

You don’t need to be “wealthy” to benefit from a trust. Even modest estates can become complicated when assets are scattered across accounts and institutions. In the U.S., unclaimed property exceeds $60 billion—often because families didn’t know what existed or where to find it.


Trust-based planning, combined with an updated asset inventory and ongoing guidance, helps ensure nothing gets lost or forgotten.


4. Do you want someone you trust to step in if you’re incapacitated?

A trust can grant immediate authority to a trusted person without court supervision. This avoids conservatorship proceedings and ensures bills are paid, property is maintained, and your wishes are respected—without delays or public proceedings.


5. Do your beneficiaries need protection?

If you want assets protected from creditors, lawsuits, divorce, or mismanagement, a trust offers solutions a will cannot. This is especially important if a loved one struggles with finances, addiction, or has special needs. A trust allows you to provide support without putting the inheritance at risk.



Regardless of which tools you use, what matters most is that your plan works when it’s needed. That takes more than documents—it requires guidance, education, and an ongoing relationship.

Next Steps


As you and your family’s advisor, my role isn’t solely to help you decide between a will or a trust. My goal is to help you build a comprehensive estate plan that protects your loved ones, keeps them out of court and conflict, and ensures your wishes are carried out exactly as intended.


I also put systems in place to review your plan over time, so it continues to work as laws, assets, and family circumstances change—and so your loved ones have support when they need it most.


If this feels overwhelming or expensive, consider the alternative: unnecessary court costs, family conflict, or assets lost simply because no one knew what to do. Thoughtful planning is always far less costly than the problems it prevents.

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Let’s begin with a 15-minute discovery call to identify the most effective and affordable next steps for you and your family.


This material is provided for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. Legal advice specific to your situation must be obtained separately. 

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